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How to Build Confidence with Weight Training

Today we have a very important topic to discuss, one that is very close to my own initial motivations for beginning weight training and that is how do we build confidence with weight training.

First off, what is confidence? Confidence is the probable certainty of a positive outcome of a specific endeavor that has been determined thru repeated practice and experience. An example would be a willingness or confidence if you will, to take repeated 3 point shots in a basketball game. This readiness to take a higher risk shot is reinforced by one’s previous experience with making 3 point shots. Confidence comes from experience. The difference between confidence and arrogance is that confidence is reinforced by experience where as arrogance is an unrealistic display of confidence.

Weight training is a very good way to begin to build confidence but it must be understood properly and taken into context. Weight training will make you stronger, it will make you more muscular which in our society is a desirable trait to many people in addition to having practical benefits such as protection from injury, weight training shows the value of using incremental increases to drive improvement which is an important lesson that is valuable in many other areas of your life. What weight training will not do on it’s own is make you better at talking to girls, or independent of specific practice make you better at sport skills. It will not improve the way you dress, or your facial structure (other then making you lose fat from your face which can actually help your looks tremendously.)

The two biggest benefits from weight training are 1. All the physical muscle and strength related changes to your body, and the creation of an appreciation for fitness that will stay with you and improve your quality of life in the future, and 2. The confidence that comes from setting goals and doing the work to achieve them and creating a habit of that.

I first decided to get into weight lifting to impress a girl i had a crush on. I was 13 and a very small and nerdy guy, at least to conventional high school kids. I got picked on a lot and was too small and scrawny to attract this girl’s attention who was accustomed to hanging out with the athletic football and baseball guys who were older. This was my initial motivation for picking up the weights.

Within a year the changes to my physique dramatically improved how people looked at me. I was attracting the looks of more girls and I was becoming less and less a target for older kids to pick on. This increase in size and strength pushed me into high school wrestling where my new love of weight training helped me greatly and as my strength and size increased and my wrestling got better and better my confidence grew more and more. This increase in confidence spilled over into my BMX riding as well because my experience with changing my physique and increasing my strength encouraged me to push the limits on my bike more and more. The increase in my resilience to injury and my ability to rapidly recover from injuries further helped build my confidence in BMX to a point where I was able to overcome extreme fear fairly easily. Overall i was getting much more confident in a variety of areas in a large part due to the lasting effects of my passion for weight training. Oddly enough my initial motivation of wanting to impress someone else quickly faded away as a significant external motivator. As I got bigger and stronger my weight lifting goals became more and more focused on benefiting myself and less and less as a means to impress or gain approval from others. This is a healthy step in the road to confidence as it is causing you to accept yourself as having more and more value and you begin to realize that your value is not dependent upon the approval of other people.

Fast forward a few years and I am now 31, and my confidence in many areas has increased dramatically. It’s not to say that I am confident in everything I do all the time, no one is but I am very confident in a lot of situations where I can relate the experience somewhat to my weight training. I’m not the strongest guy in my gym, by a huge amount, or the biggest, or the most ripped, or smartest but I can walk into my gym or any gym anywhere and hold my head high among the best because I know that i have the ability to achieve goals in this aspect of my life. Being confident doesn’t mean you think you are the best, it just means that you act and know that thru experience that you have a high probability of a successful outcome in a given endeavor. I could walk into Westside Barbell tomorrow, home of the strongest powerlifters in the country and be confident, confident that I can learn from these guys, confident that I have some experience that can add to the discussion, confident that I can endure being the weakest guy in the room and still not let that diminish my own value.

An aspect of confidence that is rarely discussed is the ability to accept your failures and short comings and re position them into a positive vehicle to help achieve the results you want. I made a lot of mistakes during the years I’ve been lifting weights, lots of mistakes. These mistakes have allowed me to make positive changes so as to avoid them in the future and it has shown that I can still make progress despite not being perfect, or the smartest, strongest, or whatever.

Enough about me, now on to you, here are some ways that you can build your confidence thru weight training. Obviously you need to start weight training, that should be your first step. I would encourage you to use a simple beginner plan focused around the main compound lifts, and the Olympic style lifts, good examples of plans like this are Mark Rippetoe’s Starting Strength plan, or Bill Starr’s 5×5 of which more info can be found in his book “the Strongest Shall Survive, Strength Training for Football.” A plan that is good for beginners that is more similar to what I used in high school would be Jim Wendler’s 531 program. I have included links to where you can obtain these resources and these are not affiliate links and I am not associated with these people or their products in any way, this is strictly for your benefit.

If you try programs like this and stick to them and be patient and dedicated then you will see results very fast. The good thing about a beginner linear progression plan like these is that you’re going to be making improvements during every workout, you will actually be able to see more and more plates going onto the bar each week and this will begin to show you that by using manageable, incremental increases that you can make significant changes to your physique and your strength and this lesson is applicable in many other areas of your life as well.

Ultimately weight training will teach you that hard work and dedication will take you farther then you can imagine, and as you accomplish more and more goals in this manner it will make you less fearful of striving for new goals in the future, that kids, is confidence.

Save Money By Making Smarter Training Choices

Penny smart, Dollar Stupid

Today I’m going to give you guys a little investment advice. I’m no Warren Buffet but I really do believe that if you listen carefully to the following advice I think you will get a good return on your investment.

I’m talking money wise and training wise here and I’m also going to be calling out certain people and places. If you find yourself being offended then yes i am talking to you and this advice is for you.

A few times a week the topic of fitness and weight training pops up in conversation and one of the most common occurrences is when after listening to someone’s problems, I ask them where they work out and they get a little quiet, they shake their head and they reluctantly admit that they work out at Planet Fitness. You can see the shame in their face almost as if they admitted to spying on their country or cheating on their wife. The second most common occurrence, and one I find much more annoying is the pompous and arrogant statement of “I have better things to spend my time and money on then going to the gym.” This statement usually comes from older people who generally make quite a bit more money then average people, or young people who think they make way more money then most people. It’s quite common for the same people who go to planet fitness to also say they think spending time and money on fitness is stupid. I ultimately find this ironic because the business model of Planet Fitness is to make sure people stay unfit, but for 10 dollars a month. Why not just save the 10 bucks and stay unfit at home for free? But what the hell do I know about anything?

First off let’s get the qualifying statement out of the way, not because I’m worried about offending anyone who may be going to Planet Fitness, but because I actually want you to keep reading long enough to benefit yourself. Planet Fitness is better then nothing, for sure and it may be possible that for some people that is the only gym they have access to at this point in their life. That’s fine because sometimes you have to just make do with what you have. But almost everyone with some serious muscle building or strength goals realizes that Planet Fitness and others like it are marginal gyms at best and ill equipped to handle the goals of someone moderately serious.

Health and fitness is one of the most important investments that most people can make in their life and it is also one of the easiest. The cost of a gym membership is a pretty small price to pay compared to all the benefits and a few hours a week surely isn’t too hard to do.

First lets talk training and lame gyms. A cheap chain gym may seem like a good monetary investment at only 10 dollars a month but what are you really getting for that 10 dollars? A pizza party on Fridays? Access to a ton of inferior, feminine colored machines? Bagels in the morning? Which one of these things is going to get you to your fitness goals faster? Since all the junk food isn’t going to help you, lets tackle the issue of the machines. Machines are just not the most efficient way to get stronger and build muscle. Fundamentally, when was the last time you had to exert your leg or arm maximally while in a seated position? Honestly tell me. Have the basics of human movement evolved so much since the invention of the smart phone that we have to create all these fancy new machines to train these new movement patterns? How did Eugene Sandow, Paul Anderson, Reg Park and John Grimek build their strength and physiques before such advanced machines were created?

The big basic barbell exercises are the simplest, most efficient way to create strength and muscle especially in beginners. Barbells can accommodate small incremental loads and they can continue being used and scaled up indefinitely. The very same barbell that can build a 225 pound bench press can build a 500 pound bench press. The four basic barbell movements also hit the most muscle mass, thru the largest range of motion, resulting in more strength and muscle gains per any given amount of time. Since so many people are at crappy gyms like this to save money maybe they should also look at saving time as well. After-all time is money and time spent in the gym can eat into your time making money, so why not pick the movements that can build the most muscle in the shortest amount of time? Adding ten pounds of muscle will happen much faster under a heavy squat bar then on a purple seated leg extension machine.

Now let’s address the money issue. The people I’m going to hit hard are the people I meet out at the bars and social events who think 30, 40, or 50 dollars a month is too much to spend on a gym membership. What are all of these people doing when they say this to me? Drinking a beer or mixed drink and getting drunk. These must be free beers because because the average beer in my town is about 4.25 or 4.75 and the cheapest real mixed drink is about 6 bucks, and that can add up to more then a monthly gym membership real quick. I bet most of these people aren’t walking out with less then a 20 dollar bar tab any given night, and most are going out a few nights a week, sometimes even eating food too. Just being conservative and saying they go out once a week and have a 20 dollar tab; that’s 80 dollars a month….enough for two memberships at my gym. Are we all starting to see where I’m going with this?

Let’s break it down and look at how long they spend drinking, I’d guess on average about 4 hours each night they go out, conservatively. Simple math shows us that is  16 hours spent each month. The real numbers are likely much higher then this. Please don’t now tell me that it’s hard to find time to go to the gym….. Honestly if you’re serious about getting to the gym then you can cut back on this somewhat and you’re just lying to yourself if you say otherwise.

And now the nail in the coffin, health or lack of it is one of the great equalizers in this world. All the money in the world won’t stave off a heart attack if you insist on eating like shit and not exercising. Sure you can buy a new heart,  but that’s assuming you live thru the heart attack in the first place. What kind of hospital bill will it be after spending a week in the hospital after a heart attack? Or after breaking a bone, or tearing a weak muscle? Taking some kind of interest in fitness and proper diet of any kind is your first, best and most controllable step you can take as far as keeping your health in check.  I have one friend who refused to take weight training seriously and suffered a torn acl, the surgery to fix that costed more then I’ve spent on gym memberships in the last 12 years.  Another friend of mine neglected weight training for years and suffered a shoulder injury that never healed properly that will most likely require surgery one day. This won’t be a free procedure either….

This comes full circle back to the idea of the best results for your time and money spent. 4 hours a week in the gym kept me strong enough to avoid injuries doing the very same activities that hurt my friends and I got a whole host of other benefits as well. A relatively short amount of time spent on the big basic barbell exercises will have a much greater return then the same amount of time spent on inferior machines and the results will be fairly permanent with a fairly low amount of maintenance required just to maintain it.

A gym membership alone won’t be enough but the lasting discipline, knowledge and muscle that come from reaching and exceeding strength and physique goals will make a huge difference later in life. Look at famous lifters who are older men now and compare them to the average penny pinching man, or woman, the same age that you see in the real world and tell me who would you rather be? I look around and at 31 most of my peers from high school look and act as if they were 50 years old. A good friend of mine a few years ago died of a heart attack at age 45. Let’s compare that to one of my bmx heros Dennis Mccoy who at 47 years old won third at the X Games this year and pulled a 900 on the vert ramp like 8 feet high. Which one of those two do you think was eating doughnuts and drinking cases of soda all the time?

Would you rather save 40 dollars a month now and pay for it the rest of your life or would you like to treat your body and health as an investment and spend that 40 dollars now and stave off a $100,000 dollar hospital bill later? The best way to save money is a little bit at a time and to make a habit of it, the same goes for fitness, a little bit now will pay off a lot late